Top Banana Republic
I hate myself in swimsuits and lingerie. Now before you think I’m simple going to bash my body and I’m fishing for compliments, stop I’m not. I want to simply say that like 100% of all women I too struggle with self esteem and body issues. This is the first bathing suit I’ve bought in longer than I care to remember that I feel slightly good about being in. And I just want to let others know that it’s ok to have moments of doubt.
I recently saw a video on fb about achieving the “bikini body” that the media and society think I should have and I got to thinking about my own thoughts. Now roll with me through this journey for a minute, I hate long posts because I know most people don’t have the attention span to keep reading(I’m in marketing after all). We are all taught (men and women) that there are body ideals and if we fail to fit into that we are somehow less than perfect. I’ve read countless articles about obtaining said body and counter arguments about it. Let me say I know we are all beautiful and all that jazz, but how many times does that ugly face rear its head to say your not? (Ummm hellooooo right here!). And I’ve struggled with my own issues about my body and compared it to others.
I bought this majestic piece from Rigby&Peller for $200. Yes $200…because guess what, I’ve learned that quality will always triumph over quantity anyway when it comes to certain things. And also I’ve reached a point (35) where quite frankly my dear IDGF. I’m not buying a cheap swim suit and then be uncomfortable in it. In trying it on I had the associate in stiches laughing. Because I use sarcasm as a way to deflect compliments and insults, often making them before others. Because guess what, it hurts a little less that way. We live in a society that is constantly judging, from clothes, jobs, schooling, partners to even where you get your fucking groceries from. We’ve allowed social media to warp our ideals and judgements about people, and pump your brakes tanto, yea I’m guilty as well.
My friends tell me how good I look, and I see the response from the opposite sex (sometimes same sex..) but it’s not what I see. Often I see so many people struggle with body image and I wish it wasn’t so.
I guess I’m just trying to excercise my own demons about body issues and just to let others know it’s ok to have moments of meh, but don’t let that be your only moments. Look for people that inspire you and keep everything in perspective. Life is short, do you really want to be on your death bed wishing you hadn’t been so caught up?
Let me know your thoughts peeps! P.s also include some others I tried on 🤔 and thanks for listening. 😘
Thursday….almost the weekend thank you baby Jesus. This means casual in my book, jeans and a nice top and sneakers. I am also all about this Capri necklace right now with the blues and mother of pearl. It goes so well with almost everything that I own. And I have to say that in looking at my photos I have lost some weight, now imagine if I went to the gym on the regular….flaca status son!
Jeans Banana Republic
Top Banana Republic (old)
Shoes New Balance (via Zappos)
So the other day I wrote about going to dinner on Sunday with my peeps. Well here is what I wore. I know that I often just do posts about my work ensembles and want to switch it up a bit. Casual and comfy is my weekend mantra as during the week I am usually in slack and blouses, I mean you see the blog posts. BTW I ❤ this tee from ASOS and I may just cry the day I have to retire it. As a well endowed woman I find it challenging to get tops that fit my bust and are long enough to cover that little something extra I keep stashed around the middle. It’s like cash in the mattress…W.E hahaha
Here are the deets
Top ASOS (old as ish)
Crops New York & Co (old as ish)
Thanks to the three day weekend I was able to meet up with some of the crew for seafood this Sunday. Being that we live in NYC and there are a bevy of places to check out it took some time to narrow it down, but we decided on Cajun Sea Seafood & Oyster bar in midtown. Part was location as many of us live in different boros and if you’ve ever been on the subway on a weekend you know how tedious it can be to get around thanks to all the track work. So on Sunday we gathered…
Now the place is fairly non-descript and located on a street that doesn’t see much traffic, but that means less people. Now the idea is that they offer Cajun style dining, and having grown up in the bayou I think I have a good grasp on Cajun food. My whole reason for picking this place was that they offer crayfish (or crawdads) depending on how you get down. I grew up on these little tasty morsels and are a summertime staple if I ever met one. Imagine miniature lobsters, nom nom nom. Sadly they don’t carry etouffee.. Now the inside is heavy wood, and nautical nonsense, nets, lighthouse lights, brass, and that jazz. I mean if you’ve been in a Joe’s Crab Shack you know what I mean. The back wall with the menu has a giant lobster on it…
So because the crew and I get down we got appetizers, oysters on the half shell and mussels in a spice tomato sauce (say that with an Italian accent!) and for the main course I got the crab and crawfish boil (Cajun style), someone got the gumbo, another seafood pasta, and jambalaya. And like most seafood places they bring bibs, trash cans, shell crackers, and even gloves. I was too much of a fatass to deal with gloves or a bib and dove right in. Spicy….Oh shit I wasn’t ready (Kevin Hart voice) like there was legit a kick to the Cajun seasoning even on mild. Most places say Cajun and kill it in red pepper, no which is NOT how you do it. Google Paul Prudhomme and you will learn about Cajun cooking. The crab wasn’t over cooked and the shells were crackable, not soft and pliable. Everything was well seasoned and just the right amount of heat and flavor. Not sure about the other dishes as I was waaaaay to focused on mines to pay much attention to anything else. But from the sounds and looks, it appeared that everyone else enjoyed their dishes as well. And to round out the meal we naturally ordered dessert. Also a friend just broke up so they wanted to go full kilt, and who am I to say no to dessert. Crème brulee and beignets along with coffee is what we got and shared. Coffee was eh, weak and the brulee was decent but slightly watery. The crust was well done and the flavor was good, just that it didn’t seem to have set very well. Now ive never had actually beignets, but these were reminiscent of say zeppole’s or loukoumades. Basically fried dough dusted with powered sugar. Um yes please!
Overall we had a good time, much to the disdain of some of the other patrons (because we are a bit loud….) and the food was good. Service was decent but wasn’t all that attentive. Overall 3.5 out of 5 forks, and they have happy hour EVERY day. Good for a quick whetting for Cajun, but now I want to go to New Orleans for the real deal….
So for today’s post I thought that I would bring you some of the outfits I wore this week. As I’ve said before most everything is old and I re-wear clothes (oh the humanity!). But because I take care of them they continue to live. I took the photos on Monday, Wednesday and Friday to show you what my typical outfits look like. Now because I live in NYC black is the go to option for most everything (see Monday and Wednesday) and let’s face it, it’s easy. It’s like black is quintessential to being a NY’er. No other city does all black as well as NYC and in a city that is this dirty and grimy black is it. I found a great article that I think sums it up from The Cut. “We wear black because we’re not tourists here to see a show; because we are, in a sense, with the band. The band is New York, and the color is black.” As they say, all black eurrything….
Friday is all about jeans and my new top from Banana (Yea I treated myself gurl). Now mind you all week I have rocked my little anorak jacket from Old Navy that I bought like 6 years ago. Best $5 spent and like all things, take care of your stuff and things will last.
My point is this invest in quality pieces (take your cues from Europeans) and layer in fun throw away pieces that are trendy. Not only does it make dressing easier but it’s fiscally sound and leaves you more money to go do shit like eating with friends, movies, and the stuff people do.
So here is the run down
All the jewelry is mostly Chloe+Isabel with some personal pieces
Clothing is a mix of Banana Republic, Ann Taylor, LOFT, New Balance and Aldo Shoes because guess what at a certain point you know what brands work with your body type and these are it.
All my photos are taken with my trusty iPhone because guess what I don’t have anyone to take them for me. But I like to think you , my readers, are ok with that because guess what…it makes me normal like you. I also don’t filter anything or retouch I want you to see the real me. Now I want to go on a shopping bender…FML #adulting sucks
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So in my trolling of all things website window shopping (mainly via Pinterest) I came across this company called Spring. So trolling for things I don’t really neeeeed but would like, I came across these shoes (# to the OMFG) and I was like BAM mama needs these in her life stat! So click, end up seeing that they are made by a brand called Shoes of Prey….so click to the site and holy hot shit batman, the mother load!
The premise of the site is to design custom shoes…yes you read that right. Shoes THAT YOU design! How freaking cool! If your like me, if i’m dropping more than $100 I need something that no every thirst trap, bucket or wanna be is going to be rocking. So naturally I’m sold and I haven’t even created a pair. Think pumps, flats, stilletos, wedges, its endless.
So you go to the site (here) and they walk you through creating a pair of shoes just for you. It’s a 3D designer and you select the shape, colors and all that jazz that will make these uniquely yours. I mean they also have some standard issue styles that you can scoop up, but COME ON making your own? Yes please.
So I for one may treat myself to a pair of one of a kind Jessica shoes. Check it out and let me know what you think or if you design your own!